 How Long Need a Divorce Disrupt Our Lives? --by Sarah Adams From my experience over the past twenty years working with clients who
are in various stages of divorce, I think most people's first response
to that question would be, "It depends on the person one is getting the
divorce from." I hear such complaints as, "He is the most selfish person
I have ever known," or, "She won't recognize that I have another family
to support and that it is not possible to pay as much as she wants," or,
"Why should the kids have anything at all to do with him after the way
he treated me," or, "He is such a terrible role model that I cannot bear
to have the children around him," or, "I hate him so much I cannot even
tolerate the idea of my child caring about him," or "It galls me so much
to think he can take the kids off to Disneyland or some exotic vacation
with him when I can barely afford to take them to a movie." The list of
reasons why we must keep this war raging goes on and on.
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