 A Making Lemonade Tidbit "Calmly acknowledge the reason for his anger" Calmly acknowledge the reason for his anger by saying something like, “I know it’s frustrating when Alex takes your things without asking.” This will often cause a pause in your child’s
behavior, as he ponders this new response from you. Next, ask a question that
directs your child’s thinking in a more productive way, “How do you think you
can get him to remember to ask?” If he responds in an angry way, prompt him
in a more positive direction, “Getting angry won’t get your point across. What
do you think will?” Stay with him and guide him through the resolution
process. Time Out: If a child’s angry behavior is out of line, immediately stop him and
send him to his room to cool off. Don’t try to deal with the behavior at the
peak of his anger. Later, when he’s calmed down, take the time to let him
know, specifically, what he did that you disapprove of. Engage him in a
conversation to develop a plan for avoiding the behavior in the future.
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